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Sunday, 21 December 2014

My Pregnancy ... The Good, Bad & The Ugly!

For some reason sharing the news made it feel a whole lot more real. I suddenly felt a huge amount of pressure to ensure all stayed ok. 

My pregnancy overall was classed as high risk due to having high blood pressure even pre pregnancy therefore increasing the risk of pre eclampsia. Therefore I was under consultant led care. Most would panic seeing "high risk" sprawled over their maternity notes. I saw it as a positive - it meant I would get extra care and extra scans which meant extra reassurance. 
 
First Trimester
My first trimester I had a few scares due to bleeding but after a few scans all appeared normal thanks to the almighty. I had more scans in the first trimester than most do in their whole pregnancy!! The local private scan clinic was on speed dial throughout my pregnancy lol.

It was a huge period of adjustment - getting used to the morning sickness (always whilst brushing my teeth!), the constant feeling of tiredness, the loss in appetite, the constant worry of my unborn child ANDDD the reality that I was soon going to be a mummy! I found that sniffing lemon candles helped with the sickness as did ginger biscuits! 

Once I‘d passed the 12 week mark, I purchased the Sonoline Fetal Doppler from amazon based on reviews.  It was on offer for £24.99 at the time and it was definitely a great buy. I know a lot of people aren’t comfortable with using a doppler at home but we found it really useful.  It gave me that reassurance at home. I asked my midwife to show me how to use it and it never took longer than a minute or two to find baby’s heartbeat. The doppler was great but I often found the sound a little husky.

My food aversions:
  • Stir fry 
  • Chinese
  • Soya 
  • Thai
  • Egg

My food cravings: 
  • Slush puppy
  • Samosas

First trimester baby bump


Second Trimester
My second trimester got a lot better in terms of sickness but I suffered with sciatica. My blood pressure was also a constant worry but by this point I was going to day care twice a week to be monitored. Though the appointments lasted on average two hours each time (sometimes up to four!!), I really got to know all the midwives on the maternity ward at Hillingdon Hospital (Katherine Ward). They were absolutely amazing! I find their job so fascinating. I doubt there is any other job quite like it. I wish I had it in me to become a midwife. They provide so much care, comfort and reassurance to women who are so vulnerable. I don't know what I would have done without them. Getting to know them so well served me well during labour. 

I was also seeing my consultant at least once a month by this point and had a really great rapport with her. She was great at discussing things with us as opposed to simply calling all the shots.  She was an absolute God Send and I felt blessed to have all the right people surrounding me through such a scary journey.

Second trimester is when I really started to feel baby's movements by about 25 weeks. We felt our first kick just before we were about to leave home for the airport to catch our flight to Dubai for our last baby free holiday. It was such an amazing feeling and Preetam also got to feel it. 

We signed up to NCT classes which were a huge eye opener - especially the pictures of ladies in labour! :o I had no idea that's what I was going to look like - my dreams of wanting to look well made up and perfect during labour quickly came to an end!! We found NCT classes helpful in understanding the labour process but not necessarily with life post birth. Nevertheless we made some great friends who we regularly meet up with now. It's such a great way to share and consult too as you are all on the same journey. Also helps that one of my NCT buddies is a nanny of 20 years!

We decided to opt for the 4D scan at 28 weeks.  It was a lovely experience seeing our baby bobbing about in colour and in 3D.  He always had a habit of putting his hand to his head every time we had a scan, this one was no different!  We had our 4D scan at The London Scan Clinic at Harley Street - I would highly recommend them, they were always happy to answer any questions we had and always tried their best to get baby at different angles.

We decided not to find out the sex of the baby as we always said we wanted our first to be a surprise. That was really difficult for me as I’m a total control freak and love to be organised.  I don’t do well with uncertainty!

Second trimester is when I started making a shopping list for baby and we also made a start on the nursery. I felt so apprehensive about even putting a list together – I felt like I was tempting fate.  It was all so odd.

My food aversions:
  • 1st trimester plus
  • Kidney beans
  • Dry fenugreek
My food cravings: 
  • Nutella crepes
  • My cousin sisters curry 
  • Cheese (this still hasn't gone and really hasn't helped with shifting the "baby" weight!) 

Second trimester baby bump
Third Trimester 
My third trimester got harder as I got bigger and my sciatica got worse. I also suffered with carpal tunnel which was painful but wrist splints fitted by the hospital really helped though they were pretty restrictive at times!  I was hospitalised a few times due to fluctuations in my blood pressure and increased risk of pre eclampsia and palpitations. It was nerve wracking but I had the constant reassurance of my little baby's punches, kicks and rolls to know all was ok! Being hospitalised was odd as I was surrounded by other women at different stages of pregnancy.  Some were in early stages of labour – some looked so composed, whilst others were bawling; some were admitted for the same reason as me whilst others were still very early on.  

Not sure about others, but when I was pregnant, I almost wished time away as it’s a rollercoaster of anxiety and excitement and I just wanted baby to be here safe.  But as I got closer to the finish line, I almost wanted to hit the pause button as I realised how much my life was about to change. 

My sister in law gave me the best advice to go off on maternity leave early to enjoy some me time and it was one of the best pieces of advice I was given. I left work seven  weeks early and did all the things I felt like doing - afternoon teas with friends, lunch dates with my parents, spa day with my sisters, shopping trips with my sister in law, chilling on the sofa and watching movies, but most of all I wanted to catch up with friends and family that had babies to get used to what life was soon to become. I fully made the most out of my seven weeks off and really enjoyed that time.

My food aversions:
  • Same as first and second trimester
My food cravings:
  • Nutella crepes
  • Cheese
  • Pizza
  • Costa peach lemonade (lucky Hillingdon Hospital have a Costa on site - got me through labour!)

Third trimester baby bump

 Thanks for reading! I'll be sharing my birthing story next :) x


 

Saturday, 20 December 2014

OMG WE'RE PREGNANT! (October 2013)

We'd recently returned from India and I was convinced my constant fatigue and dizziness was a combination of jet lag and a bug that I must have picked up.. Little did I know! 

After almost fainting at Sainsbury's and feeling repulsed by the smell of freshly baked cakes at work which would have once had me sucked right in, we decided it was a sensible idea for me to take a test. And BAM at 5am the next morning I did. We found out we were pregnant in mid October 2013. 
 
Excuse the picture quality!
 
Seeing the big blue cross when I checked the test result - I felt a mixture of emotions; surprise, excitement, panic, joy, anxious, nervous, fear, ecstatic! It was all so overwhelming and I was so shocked! My husband was cool as a cucumber in comparison!

I was over the moon that we were blessed enough to be given the opportunity to become parents but I was also terrified of embarking on the journey of motherhood and having a precious tiny little human dependent on me. Would I seriously be able to do it?! Well it was too late by then!! 

I called the GP that same morning who quickly deflated my excitement by telling me that things don't always end happily and to not get too excited. That set me off in to a panic frenzy. It soon went from self doubt and questioning myself to my maternal instinct kicking in and doing everything in my power to protect my little bean. 

I decided to keep a pregnancy journal to record my thoughts as I knew each day would be different and I felt it would be a way for me to communicate to my unborn child - even though he couldn't even see the journal let alone read it!! It gave me a sense of comfort. I would highly recommend it! 

Hey!


Hello!

A quick introduction ... My names Harps and I'm a mummy to one - my precious little Arjun (two if a doggy counts!). I've been married to Preetam for almost three years and we live in London. Some interesting (or not so interesting!) facts about me/us:

 
  • We got married in Goa in 2012 
  • We have a Rottweiler called Bruno 
  • Baby Arjun was born in June 2014
  • I have twin sisters and twins run in my family! Yikes!
  • My husband lived in China for two years
  • My favourite foods are pizza and Nutella

 
I never realised I was already informally doing a blog by recording a lot of my thoughts each day so thought it would be a cool idea to share some of those with you as well as our favourite bits and pieces and advice based on my experiences (I'm no self claimed expert though!). I thought it would be a great way to keep a record given I'm struggling with baby brain (it's definitely not a myth!)!

 
I'm starting this blog when Arjun is 25 weeks old/almost 6 months so a lot of my posts will be reflective or based on my journal :) 

 
I hope you enjoy keeping up to date with the ongoings of Mummy B and Arjun x